Open Question: 500 or possibly 700 ppl at wedding?

Ok the majority of the ppl will be from the grooms side (Me) and a few more from the brides side well how should we do the following stuff: Cake? favors? shower will be co-ed(bride and Groom) food? wedding goody bags? invitations?  more

Open Question: as a guest, how long should I stay at a wedding reception?

at my wife's cousin's wedding this last weekend, My wife was getting bored and wanted to leave. I said we should at least wait until after the formal "dances" first dance as bride and groom, father daughter etc. My wife thought since the bride and groom were drinking it up in the bar, instead of doing the formal parts of the reception, we shouldn't wait any longer. (it was a fairly long time after the serving of cake)  more

Resolved Question: How much money to give to the bride and groom?

How much is a good amount of money to give to the bride and groom? I'm in a wedding, and I've contributed already a lot of funds. I had to pay for my plane ticket, and spending money to go away for a weekend as a request of the bride, and provided the bridal shower cake, I had to pay for my own dress, jewelry, etc.. I didn't realize that being in a wedding would cost so much. Now I have to give a gift, and the bride and groom are requesting monetary gifts. I don't know what is a reasonable amount. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated...thanks!  more

Resolved Question: Problems with a local business.?

Two of my greatest friends have decided to "Get Married" (Quotes because they are gay and gay marriage is not yet legal in my state.) They have legally changed their names to a combination of both of their old last names Pierson and Streable became Strieson....I think it's cute. But just for kicks they are having a ceremony. Everyone else who gets married gets to and they believe they should too. Plus they like the whole concept of affirming their commitment to each other in front of their friends and family. It's gonna have all the works. Wedding registry, a walk together down the aisle, a ceremony (the ceremony is being performed by a friend who was certified by one of those goofy places online. Since it's not techinically legal we don't have to worry about red tape), a reception, cake, everything. I'm even going to be a groom's maid. (One of two groom's maids and two groom's men) So here's the issue. My friends went to a local tux shop to rent their tuxes. One will be in a black tux the other in a white tux. When the shop owner asked what the occasion was they told him honestly. They are proud of what they are doing and see no reason to hide it. I was looking at ties when the guy had a total meltdown. He called them sick and kicked us all out of the shop. He said if we came back he'd call the cops. I know business owner's have the right to refuse servicee...blah de blah blah blah, but that's flat out discrimination. My friends would like to take action, but short of letters to the owner and an all out rally with signs and picket lines (which they don't want to do at all...that's stooping to his level according to them), what other action is available. Would it be slander to print something in the local paper about this? I work as a columnist for a small specialty newspaper (focuses on cultural events, special things, and cool stuff that the big name boring papers don't bother with) here in town. I haven't asked my editor about this yet. I wanted to get a little feedback first. What your opinion? Sorry - liable not slander- thanks for the correction - I told you, I'm a columnist not a journalist. LOL.  more

Voting Question: Where can i get a unique wedding cake topper!?!?

My fiancee and I are set to marry in april 09 and I am having trouble finding a cake topper that has a bride, groom and and baby as we have a 1yr old son and wanted him included. I have found hundreds of cake toppers with pets and hobbies etc. But none with children!! also im not very creative so making my own will be a last desperate attempt!! Baby will be 18mths old. And they need to post to Sydney Australia!! thanks  more

Voting Question: what is the cultural way of doing the wedding in Philipino?

in my country we are start to loose our traditional way of doing wedding but the normally the night before the wedding day the groom and his families go the bride home with cake, bread, tapacloth(one of our traditional goods and others goods but the groom wear one of our traditional goods outside in his dress.....n he sit next to the bride that night and the both families talkin a bout what going on at wedding day....and after that the groom's families go back home but the groom spent time to talk with the bride that night but no longer midnight..... but am seen the lobo movies and i think the groom not allow to see the bride face at the wedding day until they meet at the alter....am i right??? please help me to know this................  more

Resolved Question: wedding help! pagan/renaissance/celtic and fairytale?

so i have questions.... im planning a wedding for october 10,2009. Our wedding has to be planned with in several months. dont ask why, family thing. my inspiration is a celtic/renaissance/fairytale wedding. something by the greens and ferns and just beautiful. I live in eureka ca. Colors= *ivory/cream *brown *green *burgandy/wine *gold because im wiccan, i want to have herbs and oils burning at my wedding for luck. also stones. stones=bloodstone, green,clear,rose quartz. moonstone, tigers eye and garnet. oils=honeysuckle and lavender herbs=angelica, rosemary and myrrh were incorporating dragons. our goblets are going to be bugandy/opalecent with dragons that fit together to make a heart. our cake topper is two dragons that also make a heart. im going to be wearing ivory, http://www.carpatina.com/WomenWeddingDress.html im going to wear a headpeice, http://www.camiasdesigns.com/pages/circlets/j-circlets-c291.html i want my bridesmaids to wear green. same with the grooms men(who i want to wear peasent type shirts) but i cant find shirts or dresses... maid of honor and best man are going to wear burgandy or wine. Moh= http://www.cloakmaker.com/availpics/G516.html BestMan= cant find a shirt my fiance is going to wear http://www.pearsonsrenaissanceshoppe.com/PaddedShirt.html ~~so basically i just kinda wanted your help on opinions and such. im having a hard time finding certain things... a venue here, a officiant, (im not wanting someone who is going to be all churchy, i want it more celitc/pagan beliefs and such, but not sure where to look) help on flower ideas and any other suggestions you are willing to give. thanks in advance  more

Voting Question: flowers for a wedding?

A bridal bouquet, maid of honor bouquet, simple bouquets for 7 bridesmaids Groom Buttonier, Best Man Buttonier, simple buttoniers for 7 groomsmen flower pedals for 20 tables. a nice bouquet for the guest book table. Nothing to expensive.. i like roses. Does anyone have any idea what that mught cost, or do you have any estimates from your wedding? Thanks alot. PS: i would like flowers on my wedding cake, does the florist decorate the cake as well? i live in queens, ny  more

Voting Question: How much for this amount of flowers for wedding?

A bridal bouquet, maid of honor bouquet, simple bouquets for 7 bridesmaids Groom Buttonier, Best Man Buttonier, simple buttoniers for 7 groomsmen flower pedals for 20 tables. a nice bouquet for the guest book table. Nothing to expensive.. i like roses. Does anyone have any idea what that mught cost, or do you have any estimates from your wedding? Thanks alot. PS: i would like flowers on my wedding cake, does the florist decorate the cake as well?  more

Voting Question: Can anyone give me a step-by-step guide on how to make a beer can shaped cake? ?

This will be the grooms cake at my wedding. My mom is very good at traditional wedding cakes but I want to try to make this one on my own. I would also like pics if possible. Thanks for any feedback!  more

Resolved Question: hoping i have all my wedding songs?

ok i am thinking i have all my wedding songs chosen but have a feeling i am missing something so i have written out wat song is for wat and can u plz let me know if i have missed anything.thanks heaps walk down isle:kate dearaugo,heaven sign register:kelly clarkson,a moment like this reception entrance:smashmouth,im a believer cutting of cake:beatles,when im 64 bride n grooms 1st dance:lonestar,amazed tossig of bouquet:madonna,hanky panky garter removal n throw:zz top,legs father daughter,(dad has chosen this one) mother and son dance:(mother has chosen) mother n daughter dance:celine dion,because you loved me farewell dance:bill medley n jennifer warnes,ive had the time of my life ok so if you are thinking i have missed anything plz let me know,greatly appreciated ah i didnt mention bridal party dance,,i do have this already as they r welcomed into our dance then have one straight after for them,cheerz i will also add this wedding is a beach side wedding in australia with a celebrant and there will be before and after music for ceremony,,war i am after is if i have missed anything important at the reception as the ceremony is covered,thanks  more

Voting Question: What went wrong on your wedding day? Anything?

Did it rain? Groom show up drunk? Lost the rings? Cake get dropped? Church catch on fire? For me our pastor never showed up.  more

Resolved Question: Wedding foods for summer?

we're entertaining the thought of having a bbq buffet for our june 28th wedding. we already have decided on the following foods, what else should we add? we're aiming for a light, summery feel. we're getting married in a boathouse on the river and i would like to keep it informal and fun. (i think we're going to make most of the food ourselves and get a local bbq joint to cater the rest) BBQ(obviously) Pigs in a blanket-groom's pick..lol fruit and cheese platter pasta salad potato salad-my grandma's recipe raw veggies with hummus and other dip pb&j mini sandwiches for the kids cucumber sandwiches mac and cheese we're also doing a cupcake "cake" and the groom's cake is going to be my mom's special peanut butter and chocolate cake. it's actually indoors, but yes, we;re having an open bar and i intend on putting out plenty of sweet tea, lemonade and sodas. ;)  more

Resolved Question: Is there a place in Orange County that will sell me a Lakers ice cream cake for my groom's wedding cake? ?

My fiance LOVES Baskin Robbins Ice cream cakes and Lakers Basketball. Are there any bakers or Baskin Robbins that can sell a custom cake like this? I'm getting married in San Clemente, California. I'm looking for something pretty small... and awesome! Thank you!!!  more

Resolved Question: Grooms cake vs Wedding cake?

We decided to have both grooms cake and a wedding cake. The grooms cake will be chocolate and the other one white. How many pieces do I count for each cake? Isn't the grooms cake usually smaller, and in that case, who gets to eat that one? Need to know by tomorrow! What if people would rather have chocolate (grooms cake) than white? Do we then count on a bigger grooms cake???  more

Resolved Question: how to deal with registry on Work wedding shower.?

I'm creating the invitation for a wedding shower and need to know how to deal with the questions of the gifts. Facts: is at a plant of almost 500 employees both the bride and groom work here we are serving cake, mints and such with everyone wondering in and out as they can make time from 11am to 12 noon. of course we only expect about 100 since not everyone knows them. It was decided that anyone who wishes to present a gift could have 3 choices: pick from the registry, bring a Christmas ornament, can email for format for a create-your-own recipe card. How do we give this information? if it is inappropriate to put on the shower information? Also there are 6 hostesses to deal with this. Our phones would ring off the hook with a plant this size and we are not rsvp'ing. Can we say "Please email so and so at blah, blah blah for any further information" ? Is there a better way to word it? 1) the invite is NOT an email. It is printed on a panel card. 2) the 100 or so that we expect are close friends. We are a small community where most know each other. Also the bride and groom work in 2 separate departments so this is at least 60 of the guests (30 each) and the other 40 is management and people each has gotten close to in other various departments. 3) what I need is a way to handle the questions of what to buy the couple that would normally come to one hostess. Would it be proper to include a small card with the invite (business card) that states "For more information or questions please email so and so at -this addess"  more

Resolved Question: Non-Dancing Wedding Reception....?

Me and my fiance are to marry in lees than a month & it didn't dawn on us, getting married in a Baptist Church we will not be able to dance AT ALL! So we are looking for ideas to keep people "entertained", we are only having a "refreshment" reception (cookies, punch, cake, etc...) I don't know? 3 weeks to go and worried we won't have a good time, I guess? Any help or input would be great! Thanks in advance! --A Worried Groom xD Wow lots of great help, so far! Thank you all soooo much! xD  more

Resolved Question: If a girl went to another state to go to school, and met some one. Where should they get married?

The future groom wants it to be in his state so his friends and family can drive safely after the reception (motels in same town) Bride is trying to make every one happy and it is not possible. She does not say what she wants. Bride to be is from small town (no motels for 13 miles) Brides mother will not be able to help as much with planning if it is other state. Brides parents feel the wedding is the most important part and do not care about the reception dance and drunken party. Suggested that they have 2 dates, one for wedding and a small cake reception and another for the party, but they did not seem very receptive to this. Tried to convince groom that he needed to support his future wife and let her decide. He says he will and then lists reasons to have in his home town. What do you think about this??  more

Resolved Question: Help with wedding ceremony and reception time lines?

I need a timeline for ceremony that includes a sand ceremony and all traditional vows etc. i also need a time line for reception dinner will start at 5pm this is what i need to include - Introduction of bride & groom and wedding party - First dance B&G - Dolar dance - Garter and boquet toss - cake cutting - Bridesmaid skit dance- big problem photographer and vediographer need to leave by 8 pm! help!!!!  more

Resolved Question: chocolate sponge recipes and filling?

my friend wants a chocolate cake as the top tier of her wedding cake any special recipes and different fillings. It will have to be covered in white icing so can't be to creamy. bottom tier is going to be fruit ,2nd tier victoria sandwich and top tier Chocolate sponge. Always making victoria sponges and make christmas cakes every year so they are no problem, but don't make chocolate cake often. any sensible suggestions will be made and taste tested by bride and groom and i'll let them choose the best cake. thanks don't need any instructions on what equipment i need or questions weather or not i can make cakes. Yes i bake i run a catering business my best mate wants me to make her wedding cake in january and i just wanted to know of your favorite chocolate cake/sponge recipes so we can do some taste testing and see which one they like best. Yes i could just use my chocolate victoria sponge mixture but i thiught u guys would have something a bit special. DO NOT PATRONISE ME BY TELLING ME ABOUT ALL THE EQUIPMENT I NEED TO BACK A CAKE. just special favorite recipes don't need any instructions on what equipment i need or questions weather or not i can make cakes. Yes i bake i run a catering business my best mate wants me to make her wedding cake in january and i just wanted to know of your favorite chocolate cake/sponge recipes so we can do some taste testing and see which one they like best. Yes i could just use my chocolate victoria sponge mixture but i thiught u guys would have something a bit special. DO NOT PATRONISE ME BY TELLING ME ABOUT ALL THE EQUIPMENT I NEED TO BAKE A CAKE. just special favorite recipes PLEASEEEEE...  more

Resolved Question: Questions/vents about renewing vows after courthouse ceremony?

Okay I've been lurking here for a while & finally decided to ask a question after reading some answers (here and other sites). First off...let me begin with that my husband & I got married last New Years Eve (12.31.07) because I was 5 months pregnant and it was important to us that we be married before I gave birth. Now I had always dreamed of a beach ceremony in the islands wearing my pretty beach style white wedding dress....this obviously did not happen due to my extremely noticeable bump. We just went to the courthouse and did it just us...no friends, family, nada...I even wore a black dress (lol not because I wanted to but because it was the only one that fit!). Anywho..our son was born in April 2008 and we're planning our "honeymoon" which is also turning into our "ceremony" that we werent able to have due to timing (we were planning on getting engaged/married months before we became prego) and my maternal pregnant vanity. Now we are having our "wedding"...we're doing vows, I'm having a dress made, flowers & a photographer. I never wanted the reception, bridal party, cake, etc.. it gives me a headache just thinking about it..plus I'm very shy and being in front of alot of people would make me a nervous wreck! LOL Though we're not having family or friends this time either (we're doing a 7 day cruise right before Christmas...plus its kind of our honeymoon too...dont want grandma there for that! LOL). Now my questions are: My aunt asked me what the point was to doing it if no one was going to be there? Am I wrong to want my dream wedding, dress, flowers, etc?? Even if it is just my husband & I? Shouldnt we be entitled to nice wedding pictures to show our kids and not pull out the ones of a fake flowered archway in a dark room with mama's big bump?? Next question: SO many sites (here too) say that if you're already married then its not a "wedding" its just a vow renewal...why is that? Why cant it be a wedding?? Some people don't get to experience their white dress-flowered-pictured-wedding ceremony and/or reception til a later date and shouldnt be judged...no matter what! Who knows if the bride wasnt prego, the groom deployed, couldnt afford one, etc... Is it wrong for me to think like this? I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who feels this way. Also, where would I find non-religious vows that aren't worded for 20 year vow renewals, etc...?? I'd like to find some sentimental/romantic ones but cant seem to...help! =) Anyways, I just wanted people's opinions on this whole matter and to also get it out there that to some people it is a "wedding" even if the couple is already married =) Thanks so much everybody!!! S Thanks so much for all your answers & opinions!! =) FYI: Actually it was more of my husband wanting to do the 'right' thing by me & get married before the baby so we'd all have the same that name, etc... Plus I never really wanted to have a holiday (New Years) as my anniversary...I actually wanted to do 8.8.08 but sadly we couldnt =( Basketcase88: I agree with you about the calling it a wedding...I've been calling it my "ceremony" when I speak of it. And I agree with you 100% about bachelorette parties being disrespectful to your husband (who would do that?!?!). -------------------------------------------------------- Yes I know my wanting "wedding pictures" and all is a little selfish and vain and silly....but I think some people are entitled to be a little selfish, vain & silly at some point in there life....especially after gaining 50lbs, stretch marks, engorged ta-ta's and a muffin top that is IMPOSSIBLE to get rid of no matter how many sit ups you do! (LOL). I love my son & husband unconditionally...though everything did happen upside down & ass backwards! =) moved in 4 months into our relationship (prego then miscarried), talked about marriage...3 months later prego again....4 months later married in courthouse=) then 4 months after that we have our baby boy...lol can we say head spinning?! LOL Dreams: Yeah we originally wanted our close friends and immediate family for our intimate beach ceremony....but as between the 2 of us that would mean at least 50-60 people (just family) which throws the whole small & intimate deal right out the window! LOL I actually want to throw a New Years/reception like party (our anniversary is 12.31) for our family & friends to attend....though my aunt didnt seem too thrilled with that...*shrug* We both have HUGE families. Now his is mom, step-dad, 3 sisters, 2 brother, sis in law, gram & granpa, 4 nieces, 3 nephews, 4 cousins. I was not raised by my biological parents so my granma & aunts raised me. So me: granma, her husband, 5 aunts, 3 uncles, 4 cousins. Then our closest friends: 14 total Total people=50 which is not small & intimate.  more

Resolved Question: What's the worst wedding you've ever been to?

Please share your stories. :) lol Last night I went to a wedding that was really awful... the bride apparently didn't have her dress yet so the whole thing was postponed an hour until she got it. During the ceremony, the Best Man passed out (everything was fine) Then while she and the groom were cutting the cake it toppled over ON THEM. I'm serious. The other food was cold from waiting an hour. Everyone there was just waiting for something ELSE to happen. It's like everything just went wrong at the worst time possible! So what's your "worst wedding" story?  more

Voting Question: Ancient egyptian style wedding ideas?

I'm having a relatively normal wedding, a tradition wedding dress, cake, groom and so on, but want to include some small egyptian influences but not egyptian colours. My colours are blue, silver and white. So far I have scarab tea light holders for the guests and will probably make small clay impressions of the goddess isis for on the invitations. I want to include something in the ceremony but don't know what. I have seen other people do sand ceremonies but this does not really appeal to me. Any help appreciated. Thank you.  more

Resolved Question: Any ideas for song selections for our daughter's wedding video?

We need to pick songs for the following: 1. for the bride and groom and bridal party section 2. intro to the reception 3. intro to the ceremony 4. cake cutting and sweet table.  more

Resolved Question: I Was Treated Like A Pariah At My Friend's Wedding, Am I Overreacting?

One of my best friend's (or so I thought) just got married. We've been friends for almost four years now. We've been through a lot together; new jobs, new colleges, breakups, etc. When she told me that she and her boyfriend were going to get married, I waited for her to ask me to be a bridesmaid but she never asked. The wedding was today, and when I went over to congratulate her and her new husband (whom I have also known for four years), they both acted like they didnt know me and quickly brushed me off. I figured that they were busy, even though they were only waiting for the photographer to get ready and went to talk to one of the bridesmaids. She also acted like she had never met me before even though we met at the bachelorette party last week and talked, laughed and drank together until early morning. So I drove over to the hotel with my mom and we go inside to the ballroom and find that we were seated at a table kind of in the corner next to the kids table. It turned out, that the 8 other people who were supposed to eat with us never showed up. So there we are, sitting alone in the corner with kids screaming in our ears and being completely ignored by the bridal party and bride's family (even though I have also known them for four years and been to their family functions. Even one of the aunts who I always got along with and always talked to introduced herself like we've never met). When the bride and groom walked around the room they never came over to our table to say hi like they did with everyone else. It wasnt until the waiters started clearing up the empty plates and glasses did the bride's mom come over and explain to us that the people didnt show up because of a family emergency, which is completly understandable. She then proceeded to take all the extra chocolate boxes for herself and promptly left. I was so upset by the entire day, that I went to the bathroom several times to cry about it. This is my best friend treating me like this, I know its 'her day' but she treated the rest of her guests with dignity and respect and she acknowledged them thusly. What I dont understand is why she would treat me like this. Its obvious that I misjudged the friendship; she probably thought of me as an acquintance rather than her best friend. I feel so disalusioned and sad. My mom and I even left early, before my friend tossed her bouqet and cut the cake. My mom who didnt want to go in the first place, was in shock about how I was treated. What if I went by myself? I would have sat at that empty table alone and ignored and I know I would have left even earlier because of it. This happened today and I still feel like crying about it because I feel like I lost a friend. I would never treat a stranger like that at my wedding, let alone a friend. I know I didnt do anything, or cause any offense. I cant even talk to her about it now or ever because it wouldnt be appropriate. I'm not even sure I want to talk to her again after this. Am I overreacting? I didnt get drunk enough to not remember anything at the bachelorette party. I actually only wanted to stay for the get together at her house but not go to the club because I had broken my foot and wanted to go home early which meant that I didnt drink until she convinced me to go. I then had two drinks that got me thoroughly buzzed but not so drunk that I blacked out or anything. Also, the drinks at the wedding werent free so I couldnt get drunk and make a scene even if I wanted to. wisma, I'm not Indian, I'm white. The bride and groom are white also and the wedding was very small. There were maybe 30 people at the ceremony and close to 50 at the reception. And what word are you talking about where I look down on others? I never said I looked down on someone. I'm only wondering why I was ignored and treated so disrespectively when all of the other guests at the wedding were not. I have only two best friends (well, one now) and few close friends and fewer aquaintences. I choose my friends very carefully and I definitly do not consider everyone a friend, thats just stupid. Also, I was invited to the wedding, to the bachelorette party and even the bridal shower. Otherwise I wouldnt have just shown up and surprised her. At the bach. party she practically begged me to go to the dance club with her and the rest of the party despite my broken foot. Trust me, thats why Im so upset about this because there is no reason that I would be treated so badly.  more

Voting Question: Where do i find wedding party figurines for my cake?

I want figurines that have a bride and a groom, and the bridesmaids and groomsmen. you know the little people that get put on the cake? I googled everything I can. i dont know where to get them! Any Idea?  more

Resolved Question: I need ideas for a guest book for my themed wedding ?

My wedding is coming up in 3 weeks and I still haven't purchased a guest book. See the thing is..my wedding is a little gothic, a little romantic. We have a lot of red and black roses in the wedding. A skeleton bride and groom wedding cake topper. I just can't figure out what to use for the guest book. Most guest books are simple..with ivory or white..not my thing. I saw something online about using a guitar as a guest book for everyone to sign, but I'm not too sure about that either. Does anyone have any ideas for something cool to use that people can sign?  more

Resolved Question: Anyone know where I can find a wedding cake topper that has a groom with long dark hair?

I have long blond hair and my fiance has long black hair. I really want to find a cake topper that reflects that... Help?  more

Resolved Question: is this wedding too expensive?

Okay so i am having my wedding in Natchitoches Louisiana, the entire wedding is going to cost $5,000. The $5,000 is going to cover EVERYTHING. Cake, decorations, all of the rentals- stuff like china, water glasses table cloths, 10 tables, 100 chairs, a climate controlled lit tent for outside, completely renting out the entire bed and breakfast for two nights breakfast included. The bed and breakfast has 5 rooms in the house and a garden suite that sleeps six people! And we get it all, plus breakfast provided access to all of the grounds, the house rental fee is $2000. I thought that was cool, food is going to be $900 and rentals $900 as well. Some people in the grooms side of the family think that this is too much to spend on our wedding. I have tried to explain to them that most weddings these days cost $10,000 or up. What do you think ladies, and if it is okay please include how much you spent/spending on your wedding. Thanks! :) no we are paying for it ourselves but my mom said she would do some stuff to help, but his parents basically said it was too expensive and they weren't going to help if it was going to be this expensive. I was like okay Jeb Clampett we don't live in the sticks in the 20's plus the people who we are renting from pack up everything, and the woman that owns the bed and breakfast has a catering company and we are using her and they serve and clean up everything, so we don't have to do anything!!! i thought that our wedding is affordable and yet simple and romantic.  more

Resolved Question: Wedding Reception Timeline?

I am having difficulties deciding on the wedding reception timeline. This is what I am considering.. Wedding Party Enters Appetizer/main course/dessert Served Speeches (during dessert) First Dance (bride and groom) Dancing Cake cutting Father - Daughter Dance Cake Cutting Dancing Bouquet toss/garter toss Dancing Does anyone have any more suggestions to make it flow better?  more

Voting Question: how should my wedding menu be like help?

should I write on the menu what is the flavor of the cake going to be or just put: Dessert: Bride & Groom wedding cake and let the guest guess what would it be.  more

Resolved Question: Do you think this cake topper is cute??

http://cgi.ebay.com/MECHANIC-plumber-funny-WEDDING-cake-topper-grooms_W0QQitemZ370080546440QQihZ024QQcategoryZ20935QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem my fiance is a total car guy and i feel like i have to drag him from it sometimes lol....I was looking at cake toppers on here for someone else and I found this. Do you think its cute? I may have to get this one...i had another one in mind, but now i might have changed my mind hehe. pretty much everyone knows about his car obession....he is a mechanic by trade BTW no thats "grease" on his face. MISS NIKKI: They had a hunting one on a website...i don't remember which one, but they do exist... do a web search. :-)  more

Voting Question: I want to have a fun wedding, do you think it would be ok to wear a hot pink dress as the bride?

I want my colors to be hot pink, black and white. I have picked out a whimsical cake, and the groom is going to wear black with a pink tie and old school converse. I was confident in my dress till everyone started to question why I would choose something so outrageous! What do you think? Thanks!  more

Resolved Question: Dissapointed in how Wedding turned out - How can I get over this?

After a solid year of planning, my wedding day turned out to be somewhat of a disaster. First one of the groomsmen dropped out, and I had to move my brother from usher to groomsman and find a new usher. Then the day of my beautiful blue runner had to be pulled becasuse of bad weather and high winds- they tried everything to hold it down and it wouldn't stay. The programs I had designed and ordered online were due to arrive the day before the wedding did not because of an error of UPS, (who basically told me there was nothing they could do) and I had to get up early on my wedding day and BEG Kinkos to do me a favor and print out some more. My hairstylist put my 2 teired veil on backward! I didn't realize it until later because we were already late starting while my mother was in the next town picking up the flowers and got caught in a hail storm and got drenched (all my wedding photos have the backward veil -short on bottom, long on top). My mother was late because she was waiting for my father's nurse to arrive who had promised the previous day that she would come and un-hook him from his IVs for the ceremony and then just didn't show up. As a result, my dad had to walk me down the aisle with an X-Games backpack on! Half the wedding party got caught by a train and so one of the bridesmaids never made it to the changing room to put on her hair decoration. The venue kicked us out of the changing room in the building next to the wedding stating that they were closing up- so I and my people had to cart ALL of our stuff out to the parking lot so they could lock up before the ceremony.So imagine me going down stairs in my wedding gown with a dress bag and my purse! A LOT of guests didn't show, many of whom gave no indication they weren't going to show, the others the result of a death in their family 3 days before the wedding, thus leaving ALOT of open seats and alot of paid for plated meals. My veil got stuck on the steps and almost got pulled out of my hair (I had to reach up during the cremony and fix it to keep it from falling out). The same storm that took out my runner and hailed on my mom made some loud booms during our vows ( I had to laugh at it but it was like yikes) The DJ sucked, played none of the songs we requested, except for one, citing that his ITunes was messed up. The Bridal display portraits I ordered got ruined in route to us, and there they were outside the reception with huge bubble wrap marks melted into the varnish (we had to display them, no time to get others). Our cake came out looking waaaaay different than in the picture (supposed to be blue PEARLS but instead were blue BLOBS dotting the cake) and there was a side that had apparently got smashed against the box, the attendants had to cover the boo boo by turning the messed up spot away and using rose petals to cover it, and our cake topper was leaning and looked like it would fall over any minute. After the meal 1/2 the guests left. And a 1/2 hour before the end of the reception my dad told people to start cleaning up and they were taking all my beautiful tablecloths and chair covers and decorations off - How embarassing. On the way out no one was around to grab my purse, so in our petal toss pictures I am holding my coach bag (How fairytale!). And the groom's uncle stepped on my train also turing the petal toss/exit. Ever since then, I have been so upset and bitter, I don't want to see or hear anything about or even remotely related to a wedding. I hear people talking about bachelorette parties, and spa time with the girls and how beautiful everything was in their weddings, and I didn't have any of that. I feel like my special day was ruined. After all my hard work, and all the money spent it came out so awful and ghetto, I can't let it go. And no one understands why it bothers me so much and why I am so dissapointed but I can't help it- I didn't go to prom, was the ugly duckiling in school and this was my one chance to shine and I feel it was totally TOTALLY ruined. I want a re-do, but I can't afford it. How can I make peace with this and stop the dissappointment and sense of loss? My husband and everyone are tired of me moping. I AM glad to be married, and I am happy that it is to the right man, and I do believe that the marriage is worth more than the wedding but I just can't stop obsessing or wishing it would have gone a bit smoother, and I get kind of jealous when people talk about weddings they had or have been to that were like, fairy tale nice. I know something always goes wrong in a wedding but I feel like mine was an extreme case, I am so sad.  more

Voting Question: Story ending... please help. =)?

I thought of writing a story along the lines of... A young couple becomes engaged and enlist the help of the brides mother to plan the wedding. The brides mother invites her mother as well (brides grandmother), but the grandmother despises the groom and tries to sabotage the wedding.... ordering the wrong flowers, insulting the cake maker so he cancels the order, etc. The bride thinks that it's all the grooms fault which starts them fighting (just what the grandmother wants). And that is all I've got. Can anyone think of a funny and/or surprising ending to the story. Preferably without the grandmother dying because I want the bride to be happy in the end. Or can anyone think of a good way to carry out this ending... The bride won't believe that her grandmother is trying to sabotage the wedding so the groom beats her at her own game. He drops hints about an opportunity for the grandmother to sabotage something and when she takes up the opportunity he cleverly arranges it so the bride finds out, Eg. the bride walks in while the grandmother is on the phone arranging the sabotage. But as you can see that's a pretty lame way to carry out the ending, so I would be really grateful for anyone who can come up with a good ending or a way to carry out my idea. Thanks to anyone who can help!!!!  more

Resolved Question: Fall Wedding cake colors? i dont want red.also to make a black color frosting?

Help ladies im getting married in oct and my wedding cake needs color no reds please.also grooms cake is a Jack Daniels bottle clear and blacl label.frosting tip help needed...  more

Resolved Question: Is this behavior normal for the groom? Are wedding dreams normal for the bride?

My fiance is a known procrastinator, but I would think since this is our wedding that he would make sure things got done. We are getting married next month on the 27th. He is just now sending out his invitations to his side of family and friends (which he had to have his redone because the rsvp date was back in 7/31/08) , just now getting the guys together to go and get sized for tuxes, has not gotten their gifts yet. I have been having dreams two nights in a row about things that will go wrong with my wedding day. Wrong flowers picked up, no one shows, groomsmen without tuxes, bridesmaids in the wrong colors. My MOH hasnt been any help but all of a sudden now she is all gunho about the bachlorette party and the shoes for the BM's and paying off my wedding cake which is her gift. I have been the only one getting things done from months back. Little by little purchasing and collecting and paying off things as I could. I know its about crunch time and I am trying not to become a BRIDEZILLA, but is seems that no one is taking this wedding seriously but me. am i overreacting? even me and the fiance have been arguing alittle these past three days and today is our 2nd out of 3 sessions with my pastor. I feel I should definately voice my concerns then, or should I just put it as wedding day jitters... please help.. first and last time bride..  more

Resolved Question: Groom Wants A Certain Reception Hall?

I'm getting married in 2010 and trying to find the right reception hall for us. My groom has made very little demands when it comes to the wedding. Yesterday he told me he wanted a certain reception hall. The reason is because an Aunt he was very close to use to do Bingo night there (she died before I met him) and although the owner is not offering us a discount or anything because of that, my groom would really like to have it there. I was fine with that, till I worked out the cost. My father and mother have both said they would help, but only my father has given me $ amount, his parents and my mother have not. His step-mom said they would pay for the drinks and my mom has said she would pay for the dress and flowers. So right now the only $ amount I have to work with is my fathers. The hall my fiance wants is the cheapest when it comes to drinks and rental of the hall, but you must use their catering and they are the most expensive place I have seen so far. I have no problem with the hall other then the price. Although figuring in hall rental, food, cake, and the dj I am still under the budget my dad gave me, but there are still other things I need to figure in. I mention to my fiance that they were the most expensive for catering and he said we didn't have to have it there, but I know it would make our day special for him and his mother (she hasn't been told yet though, she knows we're considering it). #1. what should I do? should I go ahead and have it there and try to get everything else cheaper? #2. My sister suggested asking the others for a $ amount, but his parents are on a budget and I don't think my mom is going to do a $ amount, just pay for what she said she would. Please help!  more

Resolved Question: is this a good price.. all fake flowers for my wedding ?

Sub Total - $425.00 Tax - $27.63 Total - $452.63 Bride - silk, clutch style, white and pink roses, white stephinotis with pool pins, flowing ribbon tails in pool and white, silver shoots Ladies - 4 total, silk, same as Bride's only smaller, MOH's ribbons are to be longer Flower Girls - 3 total, Bride has baskets, we provide fresh rose petals Groom - silk white rose, pool stephinotis Groomsmen - 4 total, silk white rose Fathers - 2 total, silk white rose Ring Bearer - 1 total, very small silk white rose Ushers - 2 total, silk white rose Mothers - 2 total, 2 long stem silk white roses each, white and silver ribbon Grandmother - 1 total, 1 long stem silk white rose, white and silver ribbon Aunt Linda - 1 long stem silk white rose, white and silver ribbon Ceremony Chairs - Bride is placing chairs, We will use Bride's bows for chairs Aisle - We will lay fresh petals down the aisle, We will tie the end of the aisle off with a white and silver ribbon Columns - Bride is handling all of the details for the columns Unity Sand - Bride is going to borrow one of our wrought iron stands Card Holder - Bride will be borrowing out bird cage card holder Cake Flowers - Bride needs pool tipped silk roses and possibly petals, Bride is to call with amount as soon as she knows Anniversary Bouquet - silk, roses, placed by cake **We will send a picture of the 3 different stand types soon.  more

Resolved Question: (Warning: This is LONG!) Does this QUESTIONNAIRE from a Wedding DJ cover all the bases?

Date and time of reception? Name and location of reception? Time of arrival of the newlywed couple? You'd like me dressed how? (I HAVE a Tux if required) At what time do you expect the guests to be seated before the entrance of the bridal party? For the wedding traditions: Do you wish to have formal introductions of the Wedding Party? In what order? List names of those in wedding party to be introduced, please, (Including YOURSELVES, please!) and help with any unusual pronunciations of names : Are the bridal couple to be announced as Mr. & Mrs. James Smith, e.g. or Mr. James Smith and Mrs. Jane Smith (OR a hyphenated bride name)? OTHER? In what order will following take place? (I've pre-set these in the most common order, but please have these occur in the order you wish)... Toasts / Speeches Dinner Cake cutting Bride & Groom's 1st dance (Name of song(s)/artist(s) for THIS dance_______ ) Father of Bride / Bride dance (Name of song, etc. ___) Mother of Groom / Groom dance (Name of song, etc. ____ ) "Dollar Dance(s)" (Name of song(s) ____ ) Garter toss Bouquet toss Are there OTHER formalities or traditions you'd like added? Will we pause before dinner to say Grace? Who will do so? Do you have preferred genres of music? (Classic rock, new rock, new country, older country, etc. etc.) Any strong DISLIKES, musically ? *Note : Often I'm asked to play Hip-Hop or Rap that I KNOW to have ***strong adult language.*** Do NOT play that kind of thing. YES or NO, please You MAY, but seek permission first. While my catalog of songs is great (including all the "standard" dance songs like "Electric Slide, Cha-Cha Slide, Baby Got Back - you get the idea...) Are there any songs you want to be SURE I have ("I can't BELIEVE he didn't have **BLANK** in his library!!!") ?____________________ ***Have I made you aware that you and your guests will be welcome to bring your OWN CDs ?*** Would you like to create a play list that includes songs you feel are special to you (I'll compile UP TO 2 discs - roughly 30 songs - if you wish) ? Is there anything else I might do to help make your reception a success? May I place a tip jar? I will not mention its presence. List any OTHER details I may have overlooked, please? I have a complete set of back-up equipment to insure against any possible failure, save for a power outage. Have I made you aware? The $275.00 fee is BASED on 4+ hours playing time BUT if the party continues beyond that I will CONTINUE to play until (x x) P.M. ANY and ALL special services from above (within reason) ARE included in my fee, so feel welcome to request what you'd like!!! I had indeed fumbled for proper wording of that, "Take me away." Further suggestions welcomed!  more

Resolved Question: I have all my wedding music except for one....HELP?

Ceremony: Processional: Cannon D Unity Candel: Norah Jones - Come away with me Recessional - Kiss me - Sixpence Reception: Bridal Party entrance: What a feeling by dominico and peter luts Bride and groom entrance: truly madly deeply by Cascada First dance: Book of love by Peter Gabriel Taking off garter: mission impossible theme song Throwing garter: what a man by Salt-n-peppa Throwing the bouquet: ?????????????????? Putting the garter on the person who caught the boquet: the pink panther theme song Cake cutting: LOVE by joss stone Last dance of the night: I've had the time of my life - dirty dancing What do you think and any ideas for the boquet toss OTHER THAN cindy lauper's girls just wanna have fun??????  more

Resolved Question: I need some Ideas for a haunted Wedding scene for my front yard for Halloween?

I am planning on doing a haunted wedding scene this year and need some ideas, I have a ghoul bride and groom, a Grim reaper preacher, a wedding arch for the deadly departed to stand under, I plan to make this with black organza, black flowers, a crow on top and maybe some spiders and webs. A creepy wedding cake that is foam and I will paint and decorate like a real cake, gore may crackers, and finger food bowls, yes puns intended...and spooky wrapped presents, and some tombstones for the graveyard. What I don't know what to do is the reception....should I make ghouls coming out of the ground, set up chairs with skeletons, or what. does anyone have any suggestions about the scene that I may have forgotten or you think would be cool, or can you add some ideas about the reception. Thanks  more

Resolved Question: Does anyone Know Where I can Get Non- Edible Cake decorations for Halloween?

Hi, I am creating a haunted wedding scene in my front yard this year, and of course what's a wedding without a cake right? So I purchased a fake foam 5 tiered cake and plan to paint and and decorate it like a real cake, and I need decorations that are not edible. I would like some dragonflies or bats that stick out from the cake not sit on it, if you know what I mean, as well as spiders, and a plastic knife to stick in the cake, I also need a relatively cheap but spooky cake topper or any ideas for a cake topper. Does anyone have any Idea where to purchase these items on-line, or in the Pittsburgh area? any help would be great. Also if anyone has ideas on how to make the reception party that would be great, I have the Bride Ghoul, Groom Ghoul, preacher (Grim Reaper) I even have Gore May Crackers, and a Finger Food Bowl with fake fingers in it for the food tables..really gross but really cool..I found these at www.frightcatalog.com. I also have a really great wedding arch that I plan to decorate really spooky with black organza, a crow, a dead black flowers, and possibly a buzzard..I haven't decided yet. Can anyone Help with these things thanks so much.. I can't wait until Halloween..It's my favorite  more

Resolved Question: What is a Groom's Cake?

What is this and is it a must? I have NEVER heard of this before until I bought this wedding planner binder. invis. we're actually using one of those toppers for our wedding cake. lol. Either the one where the groom is trailing on the tail of the gown or the one where he's sad and shackled to a ball and chain and the woman is holding the key. lol  more

Resolved Question: Did I do the right thing?

A couple days ago, one of our best friends got into a really bad motorcycle accident. He had 2 broken ankles, 2 broken wrists, a bunch of broken ribs, a collapsed lung, swelling in his brain, and he was continuously hemorrhaging from his head and face. He almost died the day he crashed, but he is starting to get better, nobody knew if he would get this far. The swelling in his brain has gone down and his lung re-inflated on its own. He is in a drug-induced coma right now. Even though he is getting better, there is no guarantee that he would be back to normal or live. This happened on Tuesday of this week and only his family members were allowed in. My fiance and I wanted to go in and see him, but we couldn't until Saturday because they were letting friends in starting that day. On the same, Saturday (today), my fiance and I were suppose to be in my sister's wedding. I called my sister on Wednesday (The day I found out) and told her that our friend was in critical condition from his motorcycle accident and my fiance wanted to see him because he was afraid of his friend dying without getting a chance to say goodbye. My sister was upset and disgusted by my fiance not being there and she had absolutely no sympathy for the sensitive situation we were facing with our friend. At that point I felt like not even being in her wedding. I was the Matron of Honor and my fiance was one of the men on the groom's side. Her not having any understanding for my fiance wanting to see him as soon as they let friends in, made me upset. I shrugged it off a little because I didn't want them to be without a Matron of Honor. My fiance made his final decision to go to the hospital instead, so he never picked up his tux. On Friday, I got a call from my grandmother (whom is one of the meanest, and most spiteful person you may meet that is her age) saying that last night, my sister's fiance had shot himself. My stomach dropped and I couldn't believe that one bad thing after another was happening to close people. My grandmother then "started" to cry and then started laughing, and said, "he shot himself in the hand with a bb gun". I thought this joke was very cruel, even though it was true that he technically "shot himself", but it was told to me purposefully to make me think he was dead. I didn't find this joke funny at all, especially because of our friend in the hospital and everybody knew about it. I called my sister and told her what our grandmother said, and my sister continued the joke. I told her that I wasn't taking the joke lightly because I was sensitive to this whole accident situation already. I was so mad at her for thinking that our friend wasn't as important as her wedding and that the joke played on me was funny knowing that our good friend was in bad shape. I told my mom the night before the wedding (Friday) that I didn't want to be in it because she has no sympathy for our friend and she thinks it's funny. I have stronger morals that what they think. I got about 30 phone calls that night for them trying to get me back in the wedding. My sister is hard to talk to because she thinks that she is God's gift to mankind, and she's a total b@tch. I am not exaggerating. She is close to 300 pounds, doesn't take care of herself, everybody else is wrong to her, and on top of it, her wedding is at a truck stop in the middle of pretty much nowhere. Her attitude sucks in general and we hardly got along. She got engaged because she made her fiance buy her a ring and propose to her after she found out I was engaged. She wanted to be married first because I had kids first. Anyways, her fiance is very intelligent and nice and she walks all over him and treats him badly. I got a phone the same night I said I didn't want to be in her wedding, from her fiance, pleading for me to be there. My sister had another bridesmaid that went on a cruise two weeks before the wedding and got stuck in the Dominican Republic, so the only two people on her side would have been my little sister and myself. I told her fiance what had happened and he apologized for people playing that joke on me and I told him that I would drive up to their place that night and stay over with the rest of my side of the family. My sister told me that there was no room for me because it was already crowded and I would have to come up the day of the wedding. My fiance and I got up this morning (Saturday) at 4 AM to get ready and drive an hour and and half to where she lived. We were on the road at 4:40 AM and got to her place at 6:15 AM. I also have 2 children that are 20 months and 7 months old, so I had to haul a lot of baby equipment up there. After I got there, my little sister, who slept over, told me that her and I were standing in different places. I thought that my sister made her the Matron of Honor, but my little sister also said she wasn't sure exactly who was where. I asked my sister after she woke up that our little sister said that we were switching places. She said, "What the F%ck was I suppose to do!" I was upset because I had done so much for the wedding (everything from throwing them a wedding shower to invitations, to calling a million places for the cake, and picking the decoration...etc) She traded my little sister and I at the last minute because I refused to be in the wedding because she had no sympathy for our friend and was joking about her fiance being dead. After she told me that I wasn't in the same position, I was upset, but then I could have just settled with the switch, until my sister said, "I don't care if you're in the wedding, go the f%ck home". I was more mad than anything for coming up on an hour and a half drive, at the crack of dawn, hauling two babies and equipment, and my dress and supplies on top of it, for her to not want me in the wedding. It turned into a screaming match and I told her that she should have called me to let me the the switch of people and the fact that she didn't even want me there. My sister started crying after screaming back at me and her fiance took pitty on her for crying and started hollering at me and blaming me for everything that went wrong on there journey up until their wedding. I lost respect for her fiance because he stuck up for her when she had no remorse for playing that horrible joke on me during a time of our friend's accident. He said everything I said was not true and I shouldn't make her cry on her wedding day. Everyone was ganging up on me and I was fuming mad! My mom told me to give her my dress so she could replace me. Since I was kicked out of the wedding after putting in all that time and effort in, I wasn't about to let my mother wear my dress after verbally beating up on me. I cut my dress up in front of everybody and they were all shocked, but I didn't care, I thought my dress (that I paid for) was a small price to pay for everything I've done for her to get kicked out of the wedding all together. My sister kicked me and my kids out of her house and I had to wait outside until my fiance picked us up. It was very hot out today and I was pissed because I had to keep my kids outside. I had to changed my daughter's diaper in the grass! My sister's fiance told me that I could stay in the house, but my sister had the final say because she refused to get married unless I was kicked out along with my kids. I was wondering if I was in the wrong for not wanting to go to her wedding because of the way she acted about our friend and playing that cruel joke, or was I right for standing my ground?  more

Resolved Question: RANDOM wedding questions?

1) Where do the flower girls and ring bearer stand after the processional? or do they sit? 2) Would it look tacky that instead of having a grooms cake (it's not in our tradition but we have a funny cake topper we want to use) make a cake out of cupcakes and give them out to the kids? 3) How long and when do you hold the "money" bag? 4)What do we eat for lunch? Food that won't bloat me yet fill me up - my wedding will be at 7PM - hair and make up and pix will be going on WAY before that 5) What is your last song of the night? 6) Wedding guest book - we have a pic frame - do we have a picture in it or is it just empty with a nice pen for them to write in it? it's called a money bag but it's just a bag for envelopes - OK OK I know it's tacky to ask for money - but that's what my family gives (I've been to enough weddings to know what gifts are given) now - so i carry no "money bag" - where the hell do I hold all these envelopes?  more

Resolved Question: ANOTHER wedding question this more to bay area brides/grooms? I'm having a small wedding..?

45 people assuming all of his family is coming(some are threatening not to go but all have said yes x-( his parents got divorced and remarried nine years ago and are still childish about it) ANYWAYS lol does anyone know a NICE venue for a small wedding/reception that will be around 5 or 6 k (we are prepared to spend 8 if must but for 45 people including six kids under the age of 5 this is asking a bit much). I'm going bonkers and I'm not sure if freedomhallsandgardens would be a good deal for 7K which includes everything for up to 100 people(food, decor, cake and DJ) or if I should do something else? I am greek but the groom is not so this will be my first american style wedding and I am totally lost and confused. The groom resides in another city right now(he got a job) which adds to the stress since I am on my own. The wedding is Jan. 10 2009 so I need to book now ugh :-(. Every place I looked at will either look reallyyyyy ghetto or they have some insane need for me to spend 15000 on food alone. I'm so ready to elope right now lol and make everyone mad. Just what can I do in san Jose, Sunnyvale, SF (etc san jose up to SF ) locations for around 5-6K for 45 people please tell me. We can't have it at a relatives house since there is no room and all my friends live in apartments ugh.  more

Resolved Question: wedding caramel apples?

My wedding is in October and I saw this really pretty thing in a magazine where they made caramel apples and used reall sticks from trees for the sticks and put them on a pretty platter. The thing is, how many should I make for 200 guests. In reality, many people wont eat caramel apples at a wedding reception because they can be messy...and the grandma's (who have dentures) definately wont eat them! Some people LOVE caramel apples (or will be bringing children who cant resist them!) We're going to use the caramel wraps, so its not too gooey. We will have about 175 guests. How many apples should we make? 50, 25, more than that? Would you eat a caramel apple, take it home or leave them for the kids? This is just an extra little pretty thing Im doing for the buffet. Im also making a white pumpkin dip, to be served out of a white pumpkin. The apples are not a favor, just an addition to the desserts (wedding cake, grooms cake cupcakes, pumpkin dip) we have favor boxes full of candies for the favors  more

Resolved Question: What would be a good bold, but tasty filling?

I'm making a two layered wedding cake. The bottom layer, is a red velvet cake, with traditional cream cheese frosting...the top layer, the groom wants white cake. I don't really want to fill it with cream cheese as well...I would like something bold and preferably red, to go with the red velvet, but we don't want fruit or preserves. Have any idea's?  more

Resolved Question: What Should I Do? My MIL Is Trying to Sabotage Our Wedding!

My FH and I are getting married in October and his mother is driving both of us insane. He's spoken to her about her behavior but now I'm worried that my relationship with her is screwed up forever. First of all, she never liked me. She REALLY doesn't want my FH to marry me. We all live in a very small town and someone that she goes to church with told her a nasty rumor that was not true about a year before my FH and I began dating. On top of that she disapproves of my modeling career, and the fact that I am not a member of her church. I am not even the same religion as she is, and she does not yet know that because my FH and I decided that it would upset her too much to know. She thinks I'm an amoral temptress who has possessed her son's mind and is controlling him. She has been treating me badly since I first started dating him, but recently she began to soften towards me, that is, until my FH told his parents that he was going to propose to me. Then she had a breakdown and went back to being mean to me. First she called me up and lectured me about not calling her first, although my work schedule would not permit me to call her at a suitable time, and then she demanded to know what all I planned for the wedding. She spoke over me, interrupted me, and made it sound like it was a huge imposition on my part to even ask her to show up for the wedding. She then offered to pay for and make the groom's cake, which she had already designed. I told her that whatever she wanted to make was fine, except that the icing on the cake must not be white. At that point she blew up because she wanted to make a red velvet cake with white cream cheese icing. I asked her to put food coloring in the icing, and apparently that is absolutely impossible for her to do, even though I have personally put food coloring in cream cheese icing. Maybe she thinks I don't know how to cook? So my FH ended up telling her that he wants a yellow cake with chocolate icing just to shut her up. Even though everyone knows that he hates chocolate. I plan to make him some red velvet cupcakes with green cream cheese icing so that he can have red velvet cake. Poor thing. I asked her two daughters to be my bridesmaids. I love them like sisters already so I want them in my wedding for sure. My MIL said she would pay for the bridesmaid's dresses back when we thought that we were getting married in a chapel, but then the company my father works for offered to host our wedding and reception, and since my FH and I wanted to save money we changed the location. Then she said that she refused to pay a dime for the bridesmaids dresses because we're not getting married in her church. My FH and I both decided that we are NOT getting married in her church. My FH secretly hates the place as much as I do, but she thinks that he wants to get married there and I'm keeping him from doing it out of spite. She called up my mother (the two of them were friends years and years ago) and complained about me and lied to her about me and some of the things I've said and done. My mom of course knew not to believe her. Thank goodness. So my FH said that he (we) would pay for the bridesmaid's dresses and accessories himself. So at this point, the only thing that she is paying for is the groom's cake and the gas to drive to the wedding. That's it. If I had my way I would pay for those two things too, because I honestly can't trust her. For all I know she'll show up with a pink and purple polka-dotted cake. She's also tried to organize a shower at the church of satan (jk) and invited a bunch of people I don't like, and a bunch of people I don't know. She also complained about how some of these people are not invited to the wedding, and she said that anyone invited to the shower should be invited to the wedding, but space is limited. I only wanted people invited to the wedding to be at the shower also, but she took it upon herself to invite people I don't know to the shower, and I know she will invite them (informally) to the wedding. So I had to ask my uncles to be "door guards" and now we're telling everyone that they must have an invitation in order to get into the building. God help me if she prints and mails her own invites. I wouldn't put it past her. My FH ended up talking to her and at my request told her to cancel the shower, and not to worry about the bridesmaid's dresses, that we are paying for them. He is also paying for the attire of his father, who is also going to be his best man. All of the traditional responsibilities of the family of the groom are completely gone. I expected that, but if we are paying for everything then they need to be grateful that we're inviting them in the first place. A few days ago I almost said, "screw this, we're eloping" but I knew my family wouldn't like that... so I decided to go through with it. If we elope then she wins, and I am NOT about to let that happen. She also called my mom to tell her that she doesn't believe its God's will that my FH marry me. She believes that I will cheat on him. She told my mother that. What? I have no history of doing such things in past relationships, and besides that it isn't any of her business whether or not I turn tricks to pay for a crack habit as long as her son is happy. And he is. Until she starts in on me. Luckily he sticks up for me completely. She also lied to my mom about how many times she had called me. There was some beef about whether or not I was ignoring her calls and stuff. I wasn't. She claimed to have called my 4 or 5 times and left more than one voicemail. She called me twice, I answered once. The second time she called I had no service and left one (very long and very rude) voicemail, claiming that she was quite busy but needed to have a "heart-to-heart" with me. We never had a heart-to-heart (which I suspect was really going to be a talk about how she will kill me if I hurt her son and about having the wedding her way) because it was the same night that she lied to my mom about me so I had my FH talk to her and revoke the responsibilities we had trusted her with at first. Which wasn't a lot, considering how involved other MIL's have been in the weddings I've witnessed. So after all this, my FH still thinks that his mother and I can be friends. I honestly would love that because I hate tension, and it would make me happy and my life a lot easier, but I think that she and can never understand each other enough to be close. I want to, but she refuses to respect me. If she could be respectful of me and not talk to me like a child or an animal, then I would be happy to talk with her about wedding plans and plans for the future. But she won't treat me like an adult... so I don't know what to do now. I think that she is scared about him making his own decisions. I mean, it does mean that he is grown. And of course she's known that he's grown for a long time, but being married and totally different step and I think she's just realizing that and she's afraid of the change. I will be his number one priority and I think she's afraid I'll hold him back from his dreams or break his heart. I understand why she might be afraid, but that is no excuse for her behavior. If she is afraid then she needs to vocalize that by talking to me or my FH about her fears in an honest way. Also after the drama with the bad rumor and the modeling I am pretty sure she doesn't have the greatest opinion of my morals. She doesn't want my FH dating me, period, and she definitely doesn't want him marrying me. She doesn't know anything good about me, and she won't talk to me about anything so I can't tell her about my good side. She only knows about the things she thinks are bad, even though my FH tells her good things about me all the time. She just won't listen. Now what?  more

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Delicious Wedding Cake Ideas

I decided that I was craving some sweets and started looking for different Wedding Cake ideas. Yeah, I know sad but that is the life of a planner.

Here are some great pictures. Be careful, if you look to hard you will DEFINITELY get a sugar rush.

Ron Ben-Israel I know it is not really a wedding cake but it could be a great shower cake, for the right person. Oh, my goodness my favorite cake ever.

Batter Up Cake company

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I think that these are so CUTE!!!!

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